Topic: Preparing For Relationship
How beautiful relationship can be if well prepared for and understood by both parties. It’s full of experiences and infact an adventure if you pant for one. But its experiences can sometimes be painful because of the characters involved. It is not always blues as you see it in movies; there are realities you will face.
Dangers of Relationship
Expectations: Too much expectation is highly disastrous in relationship. Expectation is good ok but too much of it secrete a pressure on the other party which maybe cracking him/her from the inside. You need to understand what am saying: expectation has a huge effect when it’s too much. It can create a burden inside the other party in a quest of making you happy he/She get weary with the burden. True lovers will always want to get things done for the other party irrespective of the hurt but you have to be careful of silent hurt that your party is facing to get things done. If you are not mindful of such pressure you will over use your lover and watch him/her crack out. Is not that his/her lover isn’t genuine at first but rather you frustrated it. Most times have never seen such relationship last for long but real productivity in life is by patience. May I quote a scripture for you plsss:
In your patience possess ye your souls Luk 21:19 KJV
Instead of expectation change it to goal or vision which makes it softer having it in mind that your party is not yet there but will get there. Expectation is good when you know the other party has the ability of fulfilling it. Putting your expectation to vision doesn’t lower your standard rather make it convenient for the other party.
A girl might desire a guy that will be opening car doors, care for her, have cars, houses, good work etc I mean your dream for your relationship and yet the man in front of you seem not to possess all but inside of you, you know his a man with values. You may have to give him time to come to that your dream level.
Jumping the Oceans: I must confess to you every true lover will want to do crazy things because your happiness is what they really are looking for. But you must know when to say “Dear” you don’t have to do that am ok i.e Say no just to ease him of the stress. You see he pretend as if he doesn’t like it but deep inside of him you just earn a respect. Vice versa
One man show: I must point out this to you if you ever want to have a sweet relationship. There is no one on this earth that doesn’t like to be cared for. Relationship is not a one man show; every finger must be inside the pot to bring delicious meal. No matter how small your resources might be just be involve in spending yours. It’s true that each party involve might have different financial status but yet make a contribution. Even tooth paste will do. Don’t forget it’s according to your status. If you are not ready to involve your financial status please step out.
Life is Involve: You must count the cost before you step into the waters. Life is involved; breaking someone’s love life can cost such the very essence of being. It’s not a child’s play. Think about it very well, people commit suicide before of this. Those who do not commit suicide had cracks, holes and wounds that is still bleeding today even with powder on their faces you can smell the hurt. Therefore know what you are dealing with. God will not take it lightly with you.
Erase the Preconceived Knowledge: This is one of the most dangerous forces in relationship. This can destroy a relationship in a wink of an eye. That your aunty husband hurt her doesn’t mean your own guy or girl will do the same. Technically speaking what surrounds you is 90percent negative when it comes to relationship. And there are chances of you applying the preconceived ideas of dealing with your party based on what you have heard. That will be the beginning of issues in your relationship. What you will hear today is Males are cheater and Females are money driving but asked yourself are you either? If you are then you aren’t going to benefit your partner.
Reality in View
Most men you see out there are really not as powerful as you think when they are looking for something. It seems male world as master their strength and portray it while hiding their weakness, the female world place their weaknesses to the public allowing the male world never to felt the impact of their strength.
The Ring of Life
Getting back into the ring after defeat can be a serious test of one’s life. It is better to learn how to win than to feel the pain of defeat in relationship. If you have never been into relationship or have never tasted heart break then take your time huh. And to those who have tasted you can still have a wonderful one.
Hope of Life
There is still hope if you keep your breath underneath your noise. You just need to believe in the reality of home sweet home love relationship. Relationship is beyond some two fox playing around and talking about interests and likes. Love relationship reaches and touches the core of living. That’s when you can say it is not money neither poverty nor sickness will separate us. It is not an emotional feeling that be today and tomorrow fades away.
Love tends to secrete sweetness via memories of unchanging stand for each other. How powerful love can be when it begins to reflect its reality via memories.
The true love you are looking for comes via sharing pains of each other even though the female world has a misconception of this view. Sharing pains doesn’t mean suffering pains. Relationship is for enjoyment (bearing each other’s burden) not enduring rigorous suffering through maltreatment, beating etc It is meant to lift troubles out of you not adding to it.
Sorry for being absent for some time. I hope you are accepting all my apologies. Tomorrow I will post the part two.