Emotional intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.
People with high emotional intelligence are found to be at the upper echelons of top performers. They are always calm, content and in control. They avoid bad behaviors and are careful to avoid what will affect their inner drive.
Attributes of people with high emotional intelligence
The eight top attributes of people with high emotional intelligence are listed below:
- They don’t let anyone limit their joy
The joy people with high emotional intelligence have doesn’t depend on external factor but they choose to be happy regardless of what happens anyone say or do. Their joy is internally driven and not externally influenced. For example, a lady with a low emotional intelligence will rely on people to always tell her she is beautiful before she can feel good. And anytime she hears otherwise she becomes sad.
- They always feel good about what they have done regardless of how small it may be
People with high emotional intelligence do appreciate any level of success they have achieved and don’t wait for ‘big success’ before they can feel good.
- They won’t allow people’s opinion to affect them negatively
Their understanding is that anyone is free to express his/her opinion either positive or negative but this in no way will affect them negatively.
- They don’t compare themselves with others
They understand the danger in comparison and know that people that compare themselves are not wise. But people with low emotional intelligence will want to compare themselves to feel good or bad.
- They always let go of what has happened to them and move on
It is not in them to hold on to the past rather they keep their head straight to look at what lies ahead. They understand that dwelling in the past will steal their joy and make them live in the past.
- They won’t allow anything to affect their self-esteem
They make sure that in any situation they find themselves their self-esteem is not affected. For example, some people easily lose their self-esteem in the face of failure. This is not so for people with high emotional intelligence.
- They know when to listen and when to make their voice known
They are a great listener and at the same time make their voice known when need be.
- They are not afraid to say NO when needed
They don’t say YES to everything or to please people when they know that such things may affect them. And that is why they are not afraid to say NO when it is right for them to do.